I agree! 1 Dead, 1 Injured in Shooting During LDS Sacrament Meeting in Nevada. Also, try to remember that not all the women in the congregation are mothers - which may be because they can't be. Dont twist the knife; let them come to you if they want it. If it is unique to us, I wonder why we have a corner on the Mothers Day anxiety market. A day focused on mothers is hard enough for many women, and much more so when thats all they hear about at church. She was a wonderful example for motherhood, womanhood, and peoplehood. The average of the survey said their bishopric probably spends about $1 per sister for Mothers Day gifts. Through the shedding of His blood, Jesus Christ saved all people from what the scriptures call the original guilt of Adams transgression (Moses 6:54). "The ordinance of the sacrament," taught then Elder Dallin H. Oaks in 2008, "makes the sacrament meeting the most sacred and important meeting in the Church." 21 Accordingly, in 2015, Church leaders called for a renewed emphasis on Sabbath worship centered on partaking of the sacrament of the Lord's Supper. She is buried in the same plot as my great-grandmother as well so it was nice to be able to be there with them again. Gospel Q&A: My Children Have Left the Church & I Worry for Their Souls. How cool someone reading my rambling! Over the years, Ive heard some very good Mothers Day talks, but I have also heard some that were cringe-worthy. Loverboy was gone, she was outside of the church, and she had no means of support. Put me in the column of those who think Sacrament Meeting should be about Christ. But I was not a mother, in spite of my tears and pleadings with the Lord. President Hinckley addressed all the women of the Church and thanked them for all the work they do in their families, congregations, and communities. It is based only partially on a professional clergy with access to time-proven messages and more likely on fundamental theological differences. From all accounts, her talk was very well received. 1) Peanut butter sandwiches served with a smile tastes much better than the fanciest meal served with a side of stress. Its impossible to please everyone. Maybe we should do it eucharistic-like so I dont have to feel guilty? http://mormonartist.net/2012/02/day-three-jeanna-stay/. Thanks for reminding me so I can stay home. But I still think the Dove bars our bishop chooses rock the holiday. Just to be clear - I meant 'written/given' by women (aka musical number "O My Father" written by Eliza R Snow, conf talk by Reeve/Oscarson/Okazaki). We all do., The relationship between mothers and daughters is at the heart of this talk from Elder Ballard. Its hard to please everyone. Ere the sun goes down: I Know I would like Mothers Day more if they changed the official hymn of the day from Love at Home to this one (to be sung from the perspective of the mother): 1. Home & Family. Why do *we* have to have an ideal? Just sharing those times with women in the scriptures and what we can learn from them - and NOT have a focus on mothers. My own father would probably appreciate a plant, but fortunately he enjoys cookies too. I know my own mother dislikes being called a good mother because she feels so awful about how she raised us from her perspective. The first speaker was a single father, then the bishop spoke, then the stake president spoke. . At the end theyll get a rose with some message tied onto the stem with ribbon about how Jesus loves all women. Then she spoke with conviction about the grace of Godthe grace that helped her forgive herself for the serious problems she caused her children that could have been prevented if shed prepared herself, and the grace that helped her achieve later in life the spiritual depth she had lacked when her children were young. Please Please Please! He invites mothers to count the debits and credits in your role as a mother. President Hinckley then goes through a number of important gospel teachings mothers should focus on. So, I am assigned to give a talk next week. Support Epic Family Fun! We know very little about HM and HF really. Its a complete set-up for failure. Your email address will not be published. Excellent suggestions, Mark. It appears that this phenomenon is growing and becoming even more common everywhere in the US church. Just a thought. Ere the sun goes down. One of her favorites: Im so bad when daddy comes home, Uchtdorf, but you have to admit he gets pretty Hallmark(y) sometimes. when she becomes a God like I know she will she will be an inspriation to all ladys, Plus, I thought it was extra cool that the Bish consulted the RS pres. I must let my voice be heard, Why was she an ideal? More than at any time in the history of the world, we need mothers who know. He also shares ways a mother can become the first line of defense against the wiles of the world., RELATED: 30 Inspiring LDS Quotes About Mothers & Motherhood. Why are women so disenchanted with motherhood when we value it so highly? Sacrament meeting is a time for us to renew our covenants, it is a sacred ordinance. Idealsno, no maam not for me. For those who disagreed with my thoughts (above) about our needing ideals to aim at in our lives, I fell upon a quote from C.S. She has your best interests at heart. In the same way, when we make a dramatic production of Mothers Day, I fear that we are sometimestrying to compensate for the way we devalue the real and important work they do on the other 364 days of the year. Ill be hiding in the clerks office. You can also subscribe without commenting. We are confabbing about how to turn the tables on Hallmark. I meant an ideal not an idea! On Mothers Day. This talk by Elaine S. Dalton helps fathers understand the importance of loving and cherishing the women in their life. On the road this week I attend Mother's day services with the fourth ward in St George Utah. Because children can be wayward we should not celebrate parenthood. There was nothing you could do that would ever make you feel like she didnt love you, but she always told you the truth about your behavior and was not afraid to be entirely real with you even when you wanted to lie to yourself. More often than not, his assumption is correct. It just screamed, whoops, we forgot to order flowers in time and ran out to walmart last night and bought up whatever womanly thing we could find. Latter-day Saint Missionary Hospitalized After Stabbing in Colombia, A Slam Dunk of a Service Project: The NBA and Church of Jesus Christ Feed the Hungry, All Missionaries Accounted for in New Zealand After Devastating Cyclone, New Zealand Latter-day Saints Urged to Prepare for Cyclone, Latter-day Saint Artists Paints Uvalde Shooting Victims, Delivers Portraits to Families, Tender Advice from President Monson Trends on Instagram Reels, Church of Jesus Christ Releases Statement of Support After Earthquakes in Turkey, Syria, Try Faith: A 30-Day Challenge Shows How Four Young Vloggers Built Faith in Jesus. The second is about a mother who diligently loved her son as he struggled with same-sex attraction and labored him through his despair. Can anyone say overdone? When mothers know who they are and who God is and have made covenants with Him, they will have great power and influence for good on their children.. Being there with my son was very nice. To all of you giving talks, good luck on navigating the mine fields! Thats what insulin is for. Latter-day Saint Life. What do you think should be handed out for Mothers Day? Inevitably they would be instructed that the gifts were for all women, so theyd try hard to give me one. Mothers Day for me is when my children and Grandchildren call me. This might be a useful reference in terms of stories about Christ and women (not saying to cite it, just to get scripture references and helpful context): http://www.fairmormon.org/perspectives/fair-conferences/2015-fairmormon-conference/christs-emancipation-of-women-in-the-new-testament. By Ive been jinxed. This has been a great reminder to be sensitive to all in the congregation with the Holy Ghost as a guide. This ordinance is an essential part of worship and spiritual development. Regarding the giveaways: in my ward for the last several years, all of the women have been given chocolates on Mothers Day (very nice ones). I also have plenty of friends who are single sisters and they mourn growing older and menopause because they wont be able to have the children they want to hold and love. A later version of the holiday occurred in Europe where they would celebrate the Mother Church (the church as the bride of Christ and as the mother of their spiritual rebirth through baptism) and they would decorate the church with flowers and jewels. Like many others, my wife and her mother have both always struggled with hearing sacrament meeting talks on Mothers Day. Mother's Day is a special time to say thanks to the women in your life. Ere the sun goes down, Any suggestions as to what you would truly and realistically appreciate being presented? As a member of our bishopric, I assigned the topics for this weeks talks, all motherhood focused, and I have forwarded your paragraph with Elder Eyrings quote to each of them. #93 Ruth It is awkward for those who are NOT mothers and I don't think fathers get their due comparibly. The primary children sing and we are making a mothers day gift in primary. For the past two years, I have been passed over because other women tell the youth passing out the gift, that they need to take one for so-and-so, shes ill today,without looking for women in the room that havent received one yet. This reflects a very different image than the one we portray to the world about our values and what we say means the most to us. My own dear mother, long since gone to her reward, summed up the essence of the perfect Mothers Day talk quite nicely. I didnt realize Mothers Day was so close. Sorry I missed that. Im asking this out of genuine curiosity/responsibility for handing stuff out. It seems like every time theres a church scandaland especially one that concerns moneypeople start arguing that the scandal-ridden church (or even churches in general) should lose their tax exemptions. Nothanks to my back problems got to fly non-stop from Atlanta to Seattle. Although I like the idea of them as well! Because disciples can be wayward in their faith we should not celebrate Christmas because it causes too much pain in those who remain more faithful. Im asking this out of genuine curiosity/responsibility for handing stuff out. all while X sat smugly on the stand. She loved us unconditionally heart and soul. rockpond "I am a sociopathic perverted mess emotionally and mentally thanks to the influence of my insane codependent mother.'". To the light the lost ones leading, Identifying ideals is somehow so treacherous for the psyches of women that that must never be mentioned? Although Mothers Day is not fraught for me the way it is for so many, I will be watching with interest next Sunday to see which way our meeitng falls. Thanks, kc! All Latter-day Saint Youth Need to Hear Ready to Rise, Popular Rapper Says He Wants to Be Baptized into The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, FREE I Can Do All Things Through Christ Sheet Music + Music Video, Latter-day Saint Missionaries Perform Is There Room, Official 2023 Youth Theme Music Video: I Can Do All Things Through Christ, Popular Rapper Says He Wants to Be Baptized into The Church. Mother's Day: My talk by Kaimi Wenger May 5, 2009 23 Comments It's hard to strike the right balance, between affirming Moms who really need to be told that they made a good decision; and letting others (especially women) know that they're okay, too. Maybe Ill get a pizza and tell the kids to cook it for breakfast when Sunday morning comes. Can they not celebrate their own mothers? Doesn't seem strange in a religion that supposedly is so family focused? Next, it is always very specific so as to not offend anyone. Mother's Day Last year I used the last verse of "Teach Me to Walk in the Light" and the song "Teacher/Mother Do You Love Me" for the Mother's Day Primary songs in sacrament meeting. One thing I would add is that somehow we need to stop telling LDS women that they need to do everything in 6 days and 90% income with smiles on their faces and do it better than their non-LDS peers. Thank you to everyone! Especially since whoever asked him to speak didnt learn their lesson and he said the exact same talk a year later. Well, counselor x/counselor y is in charge of May, I dont know what hes doing for sure . Were here to help! Find another way to show appreciation to Mothers! Something else for me to kill.. Thanks! I believe it is by divine design that the role of motherhood emphasizes the nurturing and teaching of the next generation.. But since youre not, Im bowing out this year. Partaking of the sacrament is a witness to God that the remembrance of His Son will extend beyond the short time of that sacred ordinance. Scriptural women are perhaps safer :-) And in our ward, the men get cans of Dads Root Beer or Sugar Daddy candies. I believe the best thing a man can do is not to love his wife in word, but to help her find and be and become whatever she truly wants to be and become outside of her role as mother. At the end of the survey there was a comments box where individuals could leave specific feedback to bishoprics that organize Mothers Day. Its hard for those without children, who are likely never to have children, to listen to motherhood talks that don't address their situation. It is not that women want to be from Venus, but they want to be from Venus five universes beyond our own. Modal title . It was a very honest list, but emphasized that the things she would change had nothing to do with looking good, acting a certain way, or different callings. The bad ones tend to deal withthe big generalities, praisingmotherhood without even pausing to define whether we are speaking of women who have given birth, or womanhood in general. I have no aversion to motherhood being spoken of in church. I mean big ol gnarly wretch. Women are saved in child bearing is good as always. My favorite Mothers Day talk was my own talk. Yea like all of you My Mother sucked too. The sacrament provides an opportunity for Church members to ponder and remember with gratitude the life, ministry, and Atonement of the Son of God. Ive lived in numerous family wards, and Ive never gotten as much as a crumb for Fathers Day, at least not from church. JUST kidding. They seemed to love the tradition and I never received negative feedback. . So for over a decade, Ive loved Mothers Day, just because I know it wont end with all of us crying. Elder Ballard lists three ways mothers can do that; first, is realizing joy comes in moments, second is to not overschedule children, and third, to find time to cultivate talents and interests. Sometime in the mid-1990s, I went to the ward library after sacrament meeting to obtain materials for teaching a lesson. Didnt we predict this? I do think it is easy to understand my point and I appreciate it when others understand my position. Please use the comments to make your own contributions. more guilt and more controversy.). Tony, thanks! For example, look at how Mothers Day and Mothering Day each have a religious as well as a secular component to them, and have even merged: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother's_Day, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mothering_Sunday. Or any talk. In partaking of the sacrament and making these commitments, Church members renew the covenant they made at baptism (see Mosiah 18:810; Doctrine and Covenants 20:37). In simple terms his philosophy was that the church is not true because it is madeconsists of people who are imperfect and therefore not always true to all of the ideals taught. They do not need to be perfect in order to partake of the sacrament, but they should have a spirit of humility and repentance in their hearts. Nourishing their souls instead of feeding their bodies? Usually chocolate, a plant or flower. They really did. Have a young child, a teenager, husband and elderly father take you through the different phases of motherhood in their own point of view. Re-reading my comment (101) it sounds very harsh even though that is not how I mean it to sound. Although, I hate how as a single man, some married women run from me cause they think Im going to try to seduce them or something. The Mothers Day talks in my singles wards have been quite sensitive to childless women, but still pretty women-on-pedestalsy. The rest of us mortals should stick with real.. I have been called by God to be there and that is where I should be. Do you also not need an idea such as the Savior, your Father in Heaven or your Heavenly Mother? So I will be going to church on Sunday, even though I never go to church, so I can remember my mother, who was never a Mormon. You can still give the women the day off. Or better yet, teach their classes and let them attend RS for a day? If I would obtain the blessing, Too often folks with food allergies, diabetes, and similar challenges are left feeling like second class saints in our food-laden church culture. In my home ward, we once had a Mothers Day Sacrament Meeting the topic of which was the priesthood. In honor of Earth Day, you could throw in the topic of Mother Nature also! Primary kids singing, oh, 12 songs, and then someone real standing up and talking about the incredible power of hope, even when we feel that we dont measure up, and the wonder of the atonement and Gods love for us. Not until the 1600s did people start associating the holiday with their own actual mothers (Mothering Day in the UK). lesson about prayer. Because school is out in June, Fathers get the bum end of the deal when it comes to recognition. He also discussed the importance of placing motherhood first in our lives but not allowing the pressures of motherhood to sap us of joy. Our old ward in NY would take the funds normally used to purchase flowers, chocolate, etc. I don't think it bodes well. How can a father raise a happy, well-adjusted daughter in todays increasingly toxic world? That in no way shape or form precludes me from looking to Christ/HF/HM for ideals. 2 women spoke about motherhood. That we be a great subject for Mother's Day. A break from the primary room!) We've gathered five inspiring gifts for Latter-day Saint women to help them feel cherished and celebrated. Ere the sun goes down. Flowers were also given to anyone who wanted to wear one in honour of their mothers. Uchtdorf. I am glad you had a good father, but honestly, that attitude is what keeps me away. I have to go home right after Sacrament meeting, because the Sisters all bring their flowers with them to the other meetings. I should clarify that my mother (and father) are wonderful and I have no complaints. In this case it will likely be mothers, and the Primary kids will sing, too. 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Well we could have it like the Sacrament Meetings for Father's Day and have it be your usual every Sunday meeting and not even talk about women or mothers. Heres my updated version: Im so glad when Daddy comes home, The Barker Brothers' Projects These videos were created for Latter-day Saint parents and allies to voice their love for their LGBT brothers and sisters, sons and daughters. Print out the short questionnaires included in the printable and distribute them to the mothers in your ward a few weeks before Mother's Day. Listen to her. Just a question here, since I am new to this blog. I too am irritated by mother-worshipping in MD talks, but at the same time, I think many Mormon women identify so strongly with being a mother and so many have sacrificed just about everything to focus on that specific role, that they really appreciate a little validation, a little boost of confidence that what theyre doing is significant and has meaning. Less than nothing because the message of such a gift is that the person is not important. This was very informative and interesting. Set them up outside the chapel, or in the kitchen or sometime. After church we can give dear old dad a cookie in a baggie and a kick in the pants, call it good for another year, and send him home. could have had us all come to earth as adults, but instead we came as infants needing 24 hour care to survive; there must be something we need to learn from being dependent on parents, and 4) share some motherhood quotes. Mothers Day theme, is the spirit is trying to witness to us at what a dumb idea it is. Ive never objected to any Mothers Day program, and in my ward, all women get a gift, married, single, divorced, widowed, with or without children. But I certainly enjoyed the beauty of the whole situation and was very glad to see so many young peole in the Church on Sunday. Thanks for the reminder. Have a variety of ages speak on ideas or what they've done to help their mothers and ways they've stayed close to their mothers. We can only celebrate the nonentity because we are afraid of hurting those who are not being celebrated "today". Beware the philosophies of Hallmark, mingled with scripture. lol. May the blessings of heaven rest upon you. I dont know why that would be, unless people are just assuming we ache for something more to nurture. Last year we did two songs for the Mother's Day sacrament meeting, and they turned out beautifully, so I thought I would share them with you. I remember my dad saying it was one of the most powerful and real talks hed ever heard in a Mormon church meeting. Especially for those women that aren't mothersbut, a big but, these women are mothers to villages, pets, and extended family all the time! Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. Respect her. I cant quite get them right and they would certainly be expunged by the moderators anyway. Speakers arent assigned to talk on mothers day, there is no gift, no refreshments, no day off from primary. Young Latter-day Saint priesthood . #28 Love the song choice of I Have Work Enough To Do as a tribute. Evry cry of pity heeding, It might be that it was a holiday originally conceived by the US Socialist Party and propagated by the Soviets. Which isnt necessarily a bad thing. https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2014/04/wanted-hands-and-hearts-to-hasten-the-work?lang=eng. In my nearly 40 years in the church that has borne true. I would say that since Christ is supposed to be the express image of his Father that we do know quite a bit about the Father. . Get plenty HPs and Elders. Too much idealism masks reality and can quickly become propaganda and lies. The fathers dont seem to feel as guilty about things as the mothers do,,,. Why Women, Especially Mothers, Working Outside the Home is an Abomination Unto the Lord. I dont like the sappy talks about the perfect mothers. But from my description, it sounds like the typical platitudinous MD talk. So He can be ideal AND real. On the other hand, women tended to speak about motherhood as the most emotionally-exhausting and time-consuming chore imaginable. (just kidding). Sorry for the sacrilege I think all women want massages but not sure the church is the right place for it. At least half the ward was so embarrassed for her at this point that they looked as if they wanted to crawl under the benches. My kids are way too distracting. Families are good about this but public acknowledgement is hard to come by. Well give you an honest deal! Along with activities and programs during the week, Latter-day Saints gather on Sundays for an approximately hour-long "sacrament" meeting, where men, women and younger members offer prayers and give sermons, sing hymns and partake of the sacrament (similar to receiving communion). 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